Expansion overcomes limitation

Fear of Failure…..and of Death

What does failure mean to you?

What does death mean to you?

Do either of them bring up feelings of fear or dread?

The fear of failure can be paralysingly detrimental to us realising our full potential. The fear of death, given its inevitability at some point, can seem impossible to overcome.

Yet, when we stop giving power to the fear and engage our empowered mind (as explained in my last blog), we can handle these fears too.

With a fear of failure, what does ‘failure’ actually mean?

Isn’t it just that something didn’t work out the way we wanted it to at the time? Why be so hard on ourselves? If something is really worth doing, isn’t it worth screwing it up the first time we try?

As brilliant inventor Edison said “I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that wont work”.

I have adapted this for myself in the form of “I spent today finding out how not to do things.”

The point is there is no such thing as failure, just lessons to be learned. It is an opportunity to do things differently next time. If we never made mistakes we’d never have growth. So if you have a fear of failure, give yourself a break and remember more people in old age regret what they haven’t done than what they have!

“Feel the fear and do it anyway”!

And if your fear of failure is because of what you believe other people will think of you, that is absolutely giving your power away! That will be a topic for another blog, or you could buy my book and dissolve that one now!

With a fear of death, realise this is just the opposite of birth and is absolutely as natural. Really a fear of death is a fear of the unknown, of not being in the state of what we know and feel now. We’re born and we manage all those unknowns successfully and no doubt when it’s our time to die we’ll manage that too.

The key is acceptance. The fact is death is going to happen at some point so our choice is to either give our power to the misery worrying about something we can’t escape or to embrace the life we have for the time we have it and live it to the full. What is the point of doing anything else?

We don’t get to choose how we die or when, but we do get to choose how we live! Let’s choose to focus on what we can do something about and create as many positive memories as we can for when our time comes.

If you were to really live life to create some great memories, what would you allow yourself to be, or do, or have?

If you were to embrace your life a little more, what’s the first thing you could enjoy embracing today?

About The Author

Demi Schneider

- DHP HPD SFBT(Dip) GQHP MNCP AfSFH - Clinical Hypnotherapist & Psychotherapist - Metaphysical Life Coach - Solution Focused Brief Therapist - Founder & Facilitator of Depression Busting Courses - Author of “Beat Your Depression For Good”