It’s That Time of Year Again…..

Christmas can be a wonderful time, with the delight of seeing all the lights and decorations everywhere, hearing the beloved carols and songs, enjoying parties, exchanging gifts with loved ones and feeling the warmth and coming together of communities.

However, when we are feeling depressed, these things can just deepen our sense of disconnection and pain even further.

This is a time to literally remember our blessings.

For me, Christmas has never been a house filled with lots of happy people playing charades and having plenty of boisterous fun and laughter.  Yet, I am blessed to have my parents and my daughter to share the time with.  I have embraced every minute of the years my daughter believed in Santa and still love cuddling up and watching Christmas movies and putting out the sherry and cookie for ‘Santa-mum’.  I am hugely grateful for these experiences.

There is always so much to be thankful for.  We are truly blessed to experience so much good in our lives.  Yet, we tend to have the a habit of noticing and focusing our attention on what’s wrong or missing.  This puts us in our “Rats’ Den” primitive part of the brain, which in turn creates anxiety and depression.

What we focus on grows.  If we focus on the ‘lack’ side of things we create more lack.  If we focus on ‘the gap’ between what we want and what we have now, we will keep the gap.  If we focus on truly allowing ourselves to have what we want, we create the mind space for things to manifest.  This allows us to move forward and feel in command of our lives.

One of the simplest ways to get into this positive mind space is to feel gratitude.  There are so many things to feel grateful for:  your sight to read this; your ability to read this (unlike 2 billion others on the planet who are illiterate);  your home; your warm comfortable bed; food; running water and flushing loo’s (526 million women in the world do not even have access to a toilet).  There’s the beauty of nature, people you love, pets and the very air that you breathe.

Besides these I feel gratitude whenever I switch on an electric light.  I feel gratitude when I turn my central heating on.  I feel gratitude whilst spending time watching a movie with my daughter.  Having had my internet crash for nearly a month, I now feel gratitude every time I use this wonder!  Gosh – all those emails connecting so easily with people from all over the world; the opportunity to join webinars to hear wonderful inspiring teachers and guru’s; the option to do shopping without  driving to shops, queuing to park or even leaving my home; the ease of googling free quizzes for my daughter and her friends or finding answers for anything…….

I invite you now to practise noticing all your blessings and feel gratitude for them.  The more you notice and appreciate all the abundance, pleasure, beauty and love that are already all around you the better you will feel and you will be in your awesome “Palace” mind to move forward.

When you wake up in the morning, before you go to sleep at night, and a few times throughout the day, put your focus and attention on all the specific things you could be grateful for if you simply noticed them.  Allow yourself to relax into gratitude for all that you have.

If you were to notice 3 blessings right now, what would they be?  What else could you add?  And if you grew this list…..?

With seasonal greetings to you all.

About The Author

Demi Schneider

- DHP HPD SFBT(Dip) GQHP MNCP AfSFH - Clinical Hypnotherapist & Psychotherapist - Metaphysical Life Coach - Solution Focused Brief Therapist - Founder & Facilitator of Depression Busting Courses - Author of “Beat Your Depression For Good”